Something that I noticed today, was how our mutual love of human connection, and the pursuit of it, help build connections and relationships among one another. Allow me to explain with the circumstances of today’s noticing. Be forewarned, that this might just be a female thing… and it might not be…, but I’m going to write about it from the female perspective and such.
At the gym this evening, one of the ladies was asking politely about me, various this-and-thats. However, the moment one of her questions led to my explanation of a boy I’ve somewhat recently met, the polite, casual interest of the surrounding ladies/girls turned electric – anyone could have felt the excitement and intrigue, as eyes, ears, and smiles all focused on me and my wacky story (yes, it is actually wacky, I promise).
In those few sentences, polite acquaintance took a sharp turn toward a friendship sort of connectedness. These women/girls became invested in my life and the outcome of my story. They can hardly wait to hear what happens next, they even checked schedules for when they next would see me, so they could plot out what all could happen between tonight and then, already in preparation for more of my story.
And the best part is that we all know the story might go nowhere. However, we so care about intimate human connection, that we want everyone to have it, and we can enjoy others’ pursuit and acquisition of it. (Yes, perhaps there are a handful of people who are so angry and sad and lonely without human connection, that they wish no one else to have it. However, in everyday circumstances, we are nearly as excited for a friend finding a boyfriend (and half the time for anyone, really – have you never rooted for that guy or girl in a film?), as we would be for ourselves.) These ladies/girls are so incredibly excited for my potential situation, that they can hardly stand it – one even did a sort of little dance, and they all were cracking up laughing, with joy and excitement at my whole situation (as I explained it in broken Japanese (though, to my delight, successfully!)).
Anyway, I just wanted to share how beautiful I find that whole event from this evening. We went from a group of ladies/girls who happen to be at the same gym, to a group of people tied together by the common bond of love. As human beings we have bio-philia – we love living beings, and especially other humans. And it’s so fun getting to share that love with others (thereby satisfying part of that bio-philia by bringing us closer with those others around us) as we pursue another form of love and connection in our lives.
Gosh, it would be really fun if this whole story of mine turned out totally fabulous – what a tale to tell, it would be! ;P